Got a great response from the last blog post, a lot of you out there shared some great “new rules”.
Here are some more:
- You can always make money from your passions . . . it just takes some time.
- Freedom, and time, can be more important than money.
- I need to be able to take a jog on a Wednesday at noon.
- Invest money and time in yourself.
- People will pay me for my time and expertise.
- I can get customers and clients on my own.
- My favorite – leap and the net will appear (my mother bought me a refrigerator magnet with this saying).
- And my second favorite, about life, from the E.L. Doctorow quote – “It’s like driving a car at night. You never see further than your headlights, but you can make the whole trip that way.”
Some of the “rules” you follow and adhere to day-to-day might be outdated or holding you back, such as:
- Job security should be a major requirement.
- A steady, W2 paycheck is good.
- Take the safe route.
- Being a lawyer is everything to me.
By what other rules do you find yourself living? I’m sure there are more you can add.
What might be a new “rule”?
- Plan to have no plan.
- Be committed to being uncommitted.
- Start thinking and working on an alternative life while you still hold down your day job.
- You don’t have to be fearless to make dramatic changes in your life.
- Being a lawyer is not everything to me.
- I want to wear jeans to work.
- I want to be able to sleep late in the mornings and work regularly from 3pm to midnight.
- I want to see my kids more.
Of course, the adoption of any new rules is not meant to be an excuse for sitting home all day and re-watching Dazed and Confused.
When you envision your life as a movie, with you the hero or heroine and main star and an audience of ticket payers watching your every step and listening to your every line, you allow yourself the freedom to enjoy every minute of your life, and find the courage to perform feats most people wouldn’t.
Stuck in traffic? The audience is watching you look cool with your elbow hanging out the window listening to tunes.
In the middle of a stressful settlement meeting? The audience is rooting for you and on the edge of its seat to see how you will perform.
Hesitant to make a dramatic life choice? You’d better make that courageous move (in love, work or otherwise) . . . or they might just get bored and walk out.
Imagine yourself as the main star of the movie that is your life and use the pressure, anxiety and confidence that comes with it to accomplish amazing things.
A small baby step in leaving the law is to create a bucket. A bucket is a new legal person, entity, component, space or building block that you can create to begin the process of redesigning your life. It’s a start.
Creating a bucket is easy. Just think it up and it is (“. . . a coaching practice for lawyers . . .”). Give it a name, and it is even more tangible (“. . . Leave Law Behind . . .”). Print up business cards, set up a website and you can see it even more clearly. Mull it over, think it through, nurture it, share it. Create it. Fill it. Empty it. Ship it – get it out the door. Change the contents. Rename it. Create more than one. Re-ship it.
The sole purpose of a bucket is to be filled . . . with work, clients, products, money, satisfaction and hope.
It takes nothing to create. But it puts a stake in the ground. It makes things happen.