Beating the internal voice that ruins our confidence

As you likely know, Leave Law Behind was spotlighted on Tuesday by the blog Live Your Legend.  It was great to be associated with such other interesting and inspiring people, and it really raised the awareness of Leave Law Behind.

So a time for celebration, right?  Of course, but it didn’t take long for my happiness to be tempered by that (not-so) little voice in my head.  You know the one, the one that feeds doubt, that takes shots at our self-confidence, that limits our growth.

This “demon voice” told me that I didn’t deserve to belong on this list.  These people are building schools for girls in Africa and encouraging organ donation.  Who was I to think that my little blog Leave Law Behind was special?  Who was I to think that I had anything to offer that was unique?  I’m not perfect – who was I to think that I could help others?  And this voice told me that I was wasting my time, that educated, professional attorneys don’t really need any help.

I’m not sure if this demon voice can ever be completely eradicated.  And to make matters worse,

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Leave Law Behind was featured in Live Your Legend post

10 Surprising Case Studies of Ordinary People Doing the Impossible

Everyone starts out as ordinary. They do the things everyone else seems to do.

But then at some point they decide that’s not enough. For whatever reason they decide they are going to take a stand and do things a little (or a lot) differently.

It is this decision that turns the ordinary into a living legend.

Then they go to do the things that most people tell them are impossible (aka: the things most only dream of).

Read more at Live Your Legend.



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Leave Law Behind Featured in “Ordinary People Doing the Impossible”

I am honored and flattered that Scott Dinsmore, who runs the very successful, motivating and inspiring blog and community Live Your Legend, has spotlighted Leave Law Behind today in his “10 Surprising Case Studies of Ordinary People Doing the Impossible“.

I have sometimes wrestled with how best to summarize what my mission is with Leave Law Behind, and I think Scott nailed it when he said I’m a “recovering lawyer helping other miserable lawyers find a more meaningful career”.  Read more here.

The nine other case studies are all very exciting and worth reading, joining their email least and even reaching out to get involved and inspired:

Benard Didacus Opiyo, who is building a girls only high school in Kenya.

Cory Annis, M.D., P.A., who has started the first virtual doctor’s office and health adviser specifically for entrepreneurs and business nomads.

Justin Miller, who is inspiring 100,000 people to become organ donors

Mark Baeder, who recently left his corporate job and launched a mountain bike guiding and skills training business.

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How I am mentally preparing to leave the law

[EDITOR’S NOTE:  The following is a guest post by a current criminal defense attorney as he looks back on his time in law school and his practice . . . and as he looks ahead to leaving the law altogether.]

I went to law school with a goal, albeit unclearly defined.  I wanted to do something good.  I assumed I would discover that something somewhere along the path.  Shortly before graduating from UC Hastings, however, I found myself disappointed.  I was entertaining fewer opportunities than I envisioned when spending beautiful college afternoons cooped up in the local Kaplan study center, preparing for the LSAT.

The underwhelming opportunities weren’t due to a lack of effort or achievement, but rather a want of vision.  I worked hard and did well in law school, graduating cum laude.  I focused on my grades, all the while struggling to keep school’s competitive, compulsive hubbub at a distance.  I figured I would work hard, pay some attention to my career prospects, and the rest would fall into place.  I wouldn’t get caught up in on-campus interviews or landing the lucrative post-grad position.  I would work hard,

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Lazy and just plain scared

So I hurt my foot this past weekend.  While how I did it is not that important (and slightly embarrassing, sprained my foot while jumping into a pool . . . real smooth), what was reinforced is:  It is a complete shock to suddenly have something taken away that previously was taken for granted.

While I wallowed in self-pity this week, and found interesting ways to elevate my leg and also type on my laptop, I couldn’t help wishing I could just snap my fingers and have the pain go away.

And here is where it got interesting.  I made a deal with myself.  I made a list of all the things I promised myself I’d get done, if just please, please, (snap my fingers again) my foot could heal quickly and I could get back to normal.  I will begin writing that Leave Law Behind book (that I’ve been putting off for 2 years).  I will begin planning for that Leave Law Behind in-person networking event I’ve been talking about for 6 months (but not doing anything about).  In short, if my foot will just heal quickly, I’ll stop being lazy.   And I’ll stop being scared.

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The five fears preventing you from leaving the law

[EDITOR’S NOTE:  We are delighted to publish today’s guest post by Katie Slater, former BigLaw attorney, who now runs Career Infusion, a career management firm, for lawyers and other professionals.]

Casey asked me to write a bit about the top five fears that lawyers have in leaving the law.  When I first read his request, I actually thought he asked about the top fears lawyers have – period.  And when I thought about it, the two are really linked in terms of the chokehold these fears can have on lawyers enjoying their careers and lives.

The homeless-under-the-bridge fear.  For example, the top fear that a vast majority of lawyers have is the one I call “homeless under the bridge”.  This fear says to you, if you try anything else, you will lose everything, have no money and (in my nightmare) end up homeless under a bridge.  One friend says she had her park bench picked out.  You get the gist (and I’m sure you have your own unique twist on it).  This fear stops lawyers from engaging in different ways in their current job, stops them from trying new things in their job and career,

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It’s so great we have the desire to leave the law

But there needs to also be the will.  There needs to be the execution.  It needs to actually get done.

There can often be a lot getting in the way of our will.  There are hurdles that prevent us from taking that first step and actually getting stuff done and making progress.

And to make it more confusing, many of these hurdles are unseen.  We know we are stuck, but we often can’t clearly identify what is getting in the way.

These murky things can be reduced to a few obstacles.  I share them with you now.

–    We are actually not compelled enough to leave.  We love the security of our current job, the stature it brings and while we complain and may want to leave the law, we may really not mean it.
–    We are waiting for others to provide a guaranteed path.  It’s easy to wait and see what risks our entrepreneurial friends or big companies take . . . so we can then follow up and fill a job or role once the company has a reached some stability.
–    We suffer from the Imposter Syndrome

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