[Live Training] Confused how to leave the law? Join this free training.

We have totally overhauled our eating habits in our family. Our kids were suffering from pretty bad food allergies, so we’ve gone gluten-free, sugar-free and consume minimal dairy.

We’re in a good groove now, but we struggled in the beginning: We read blog posts, watched YouTube videos, talked to friends. It was helpful, but we still felt we didn’t know how best to really start.

We then took part in a live training from an expert focused on this area. She took us slowly through the steps. She answered our questions. She repeated the details over and over until it sunk in.

Now our diet is doing great!

And it got me thinking. I wanted to put together a similar type of training session for the Leave Law Behind community.

So, I wanted to let you know that I’m doing a brand new, free training this Sunday February 26 2017 at 5pm Pacific (8p Eastern).

The topic is “The first thing all people who successfully leave the law make sure they do”.

Go here to reserve your spot now

One of the main obstacles for us in leaving the law is we don’t know where to start.

Continue Reading

How to be famous and successful

This past weekend, my wife, two kids and I let out our collective inner geek and visited the Computer History Museum in Mountain View, in the heart of Silicon Valley.

While the toys in the gift shop elicited the most interest from my daughter and son, the museum exhibits were not far behind.

The museum provides a fascinating history of how, going all the way back to the ancient Chinese and Greeks, humans have thought up new ideas, used new tools, and created new processes to find things out, make life easier, and reduce manual steps.

Think the Abacus to the Antikythera mechanism to IBM punch cards to iPhones.

What really struck me though were the personal stories behind all of these inventions.

 

They weren’t always famous and successful

Sure, it’s easy for us now to see how useful all of these tools are. And it’s easy for us now to assume as self evident that these technology inventors would be famous. It’s easy for us now to take for granted the ways the technologies they invented have made our lives simpler, easier and more dynamic.

Continue Reading

[Podcast] Why the law sucks (Part 1)

I’ve started a podcast called “Love or Leave the Law”. It’s a point/counterpoint format, where we discuss how to (re) love the law again … or find ways to leave it.

My podcast partner is Adam Ouellette, a fellow Leave Law Behind reader, author and founder of www.EsquireAcademy.com, which helps attorneys refresh and grow their legal practice and being to love the law again.

And as you can guess, I’m the guy who talks about how to leave it 🙂

In our second episode, we discuss “Why the Law Sucks?” and why it’s just not that much fun nor that lucrative to practice the law any more. We focus on the current state of the legal practice, what disruptive forces are on the horizon, why it’s harder to make money as a lawyer and what lawyers can do now to make sure their practices survive and thrive.

Hope you enjoy!

Continue Reading

Can you picture yourself leaving the law?

“Tension is who you think you should be. Relaxation is who you are.”

Chinese proverb

Total insomnia

Last weekend I went skiing with some of my best friends I’ve known since childhood. We rented a cabin right off of Lake Tahoe, in the mountains of California. Sounds great, right?

It was a great … but I have to admit, it started off really wrong.

I’m not sure if it was the elevation or the excitement of being with friends or something else altogether, but I had trouble falling asleep the first night.

A lot of trouble.

Total insomnia.

All of my buddies were asleep like babies, snoring, peaceful, relaxed.

And there I was, middle of the night, eyes wide open, awake on the living room couch.

All alone in the dark, my mind racing. Anxious. Nervous. Frustrated. Worried I’d be a wreck the next day. Trying to figure out what I had done to deserve this.

And I also tried really hard to fall asleep: I paced, I did pushups, I drank water, I looked out the window,

Continue Reading

This is how it starts

I spoke with a coaching student today. We’re beginning to work on her Unique Genius and she told me that she didn’t know which way to think any more. She was thinking so many thoughts.

She is excited to actually begin to leave the law because she is so unhappy as an attorney. She is motivated to find other non-law jobs out there that could align with her skills and strengths. She is happy to visualize a future where she doesn’t have to litigate and fight each day.

But she also thinks she should maintain the only professional identity she knows. She has doubts whether she could actually make it in an alternative career. She thinks that if she leaves the law it is proof of her weakness, that she couldn’t “make it” as a lawyer.

And I told her that maybe the point is to think less, and feel more.


What are our emotions telling us?

Maybe this is just how it starts. Maybe there is no big bang, or aha moment, or inspiration or external force telling us to begin to leave the law.

Maybe your leaving the law just started when you first felt that pang of unhappiness.

Continue Reading

Only for those serious about leaving the law

One of the things you’ll quickly notice about trying to leave the law and starting a new life is that you take one step at a time … to build confidence, to gain momentum and to learn what jobs and roles best align with your skills and strengths.

Yes, you must work at it.

(No one else will do this for you, you need to act)

Yes, you must do your research.

(This means meeting with people and learning about the non-law jobs they are in and how it might fit with your skills and strengths)

Yes, you may feel alone.

(This means mitigating your doubt and anxiety and fear of the unknown)

The question is, how do you take these steps?

You can re-do your resume, do informational interviews, find out what you’re good at, find the right alternative career, find helpful people …

BUT HOW?

I’ve got good news …

Today I’m excited to share that I’m opening enrollment to the Leave Law Behind Online Training Program.

This is just for our tribe,

Continue Reading

The beliefs I use to leave the law and be successful

It is easy to find a message from somewhere in our culture celebrating “being different”.

Celebrities and star athletes and politicians all interest us because of their public uniqueness. At a high level, we shower praise on those courageous enough to go for their dream, to fight back for what is right, to do what they love, to make good money, to stand out, to act crazy, to speak their mind, to say what we only think, to break barriers, to fight the system, to drop out of school or the rat race, to do the unthinkable, to be funny or coarse, to push boundaries, to be eccentric, to be themselves.

Be the same

But at our level, our day-to-day, in-the-grind, working-as-an-attorney level, we are often conditioned to be “the same”. To blend in. To think like all the others.

This programming can come from our upbringing. Or from our schooling. Or specifically from law school. Or from the other attorneys we work with and around.

But since we are unhappy attorneys, we are different. We feel different.

We feel unfulfilled practicing the law. We want to do something else.

Continue Reading

Begin

It is raining very hard. It is very quiet and so I can hear what seems like every rain drop on our roof and windows and balcony. It is very quiet because it is Saturday night and it is dark out and my children are asleep and my wife is asleep and the dog is asleep.

A big storm is passing over California. All week. We have had years of drought, so we all rejoice when we have wet winters.

But actually the television weather people don’t seem to be rejoicing much – they only gloomily talk about how there may be flooding and downed trees and power outages and food shortages. I prefer to listen to the rain and be thankful that we now have water.

Needing greatness

I wondered a lot about what I was going to write this week, and so I ended up not writing much. I wondered and wondered and wondered. I wasn’t getting anywhere in my mind wondering so I didn’t even start writing. And that’s how I got to watching the weather on television.

I didn’t write because I didn’t have anything to write.

Continue Reading

How I have fun with anxiety

I have spent a lot of time during the holidays going to new movies with my two kids. As with many of you, we like to go to movies to have fun, to be distracted, to laugh as we relive the stories later on and to be inspired by how the characters overcome obstacles.

We can use the same idea to help us battle the obstacles many of us face in leaving the law … except this time, we are on stage.

When you envision your life as a movie, with you the hero or heroine and main star and an audience of ticket payers watching your every step and listening to your every line, you allow yourself the excitement and freedom to enjoy every minute of your life, and to find the courage to perform feats most people wouldn’t.

Stuck in traffic commuting?  The audience is watching you look cool with your elbow hanging out the window listening to tunes.

In the middle of a stressful settlement meeting?  The audience is rooting for you and on the edge of its seat to see how you will perform.

Hesitant to make a dramatic life choice? 

Continue Reading

Why I stopped being perfect

One of the major obstacles to leaving the law is our need to be perfect. Our need to not make mistakes.

I shot this short video for you (it’s 3 1/2 minutes long) delving into this fear we have of imperfection, and if you prefer reading, I jotted below some of the points I talk about in the video.

 

Celebrate the mistake

Of course, as a practicing attorney, we need to be perfect (or close to it). We have our fiduciary duties, we have judges to impress, counsel to oppose, clients to serve. We need to be perfect or close to perfect, and that is part of the job.

It’s also a main source of all the stress and anxiety that we feel as attorneys. There isn’t much cushion to make a mistake as we practice law.

But in leaving the law, it’s actually quite the opposite. In leaving the law, in being in a non-law job, and in succeeding in the world out there, making mistakes is welcomed.

Making mistakes is often celebrated.

Making mistakes is recognized as necessary.

Continue Reading