The real reason why you are on this earth

One of the main blockers we attorneys have in leaving the law is understanding exactly what we are good at, and how to “translate” these “transferrable” skills to a non-law, alternative job.

The thing is … you already know what you are good at.

I shot this short 2:55 minute video to remind you what these (fantastic, useful, in-demand, valuable) skills are.

 

On the fence, whether to leave the law, or stay practicing? See the replay from last Sunday’s webinar Love the Law … or Just Leave it – How to Get Off the Fence!. We’re taking the replay down this Friday, check it out now!

I can’t force you to change for the better. But if you are ready, I can help. Start here: http://leavelawbehind.com/leave-the-law-$1-trial.

(And if you’re interested in exploring this trial, I’d sign up now … I’m going to be closing it soon.)

Or sign up for a free 15 minute phone call with me to discuss whatever you’d like.

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[Training replay] Want to get off the fence? Here’s the fastest, easiest way…

So happy to have seen everyone on Sunday’s webinar, Love the Law … or Just Leave it – How to Get Off the Fence!

We had a great session of training, tips and Q&A.

Luckily, we have a replay for those of you who couldn’t make the live event … and for those who did attend and want to review it one more time – Click here to check it out.

Please note, we’re taking this down at Friday August 4th at 6p Pacific time so if you’re interested in learning, I’d carve out some time this week.

We know you are on the fence

You’re procrastinating. You are hesitating to change your life for the better.

You may not be sure if you want to leave the law. And you’re also not sure what is the most satisfying way to continue to practice the law.

This training then is for you – here’s a sampling of the topics we covered in our talk:

  • Why most lawyers don’t really like our profession and what you can do to reconnect with your love for the law.

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Only for those serious about leaving the law

The podcast episode with the leave the law expert Liz Brown is now at Love or Leave the Law.

A Harvard Law grad, former BigLaw partner, business law professor and author of the groundbreaking book, Life After Law: Finding Work You Love with the JD You Have, Liz is an expert on alternative career options for lawyers.

Want proven, actionable tips to leave the law? We discussed so much, we broke it out into two episodes. Start with Episode 18 and then listen more to Episode 19.

And if you’re serious (really, really serious) about leaving the law … 

After you listen, buy Life After Law hereIt’s a fantastic, well written, insightful resource that has been an inspiration to me.

Get free 15 minutes to take with me about whatever you want? Schedule a free time to chat with me here.

Ready to leave? Trial the Leave the Law Course for $1.

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The root cause of most of your fear

I was a Jewish kid who didn’t like blood.

That’s the best explanation I can give as to why I went to law school. I wasn’t going to medical school but it was expected I get a graduate degree. I just went to law school. I didn’t think too critically about it. I just went.

And I suffered for this lack of critical thought. While my high school teachers felt my speaking and writing skills could be of good use as a lawyer (“You like to talk, be an attorney”), I actually didn’t enjoy or excel at law school.

Except for one class: Second semester as a 3L, I AmJured my Negotiations and Settlement class. The irony … I’m about to graduate, I’ve struggled and struggled and can’t wait to get out of law school, and I finally am good at something.

But looking back, it now makes sense

The class was a small, about 20 students. It was taught by a practicing attorney from the San Francisco Morrison Foerster office. He was engaging, insightful and encouraging. We would break out into smaller groups that had to reach agreements based on real life case studies we could relate to and align with.

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The Golden Handcuffs, the Guilt, and the Reluctant Prince

I was speaking recently with a reader who is interested in the Leave Law Behind coaching. She works in BigLaw. She makes a lot of money. Is respected by her friends and family.

But she is dying to get out.

She almost never sees her family. She almost never has a weekend without work. She almost never feels appreciation from her clients.

But a major obstacle in her way to leaving the law is the guilt she feels complaining about such a high paying job. She has all the creature comforts. On top of that, she was raised in a solidly middle class family where money was often a topic of mild anxiety and worry.

She asks, How can I complain about a job that makes me so much money? How can I stare my parents and family in the face and say I don’t like my job when I make so much money? How can I complain when I have a job that so many other people would die to have?

She says, I should realize I’m lucky to have this job. I should appreciate this job more so.

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[Podcast] Why trusting your brain can be detrimental to your well being

The comedian Emo Phillips once said: “I used to think that the brain was the most wonderful organ in my body. Then I realized who was telling me this.”

Our brain. Our beliefs. Our belief systems. How we are programmed.

This impacts how we feel, how we act, how we view the world, how we succeed, how we perceive happiness.

Or not.

In the Love or Leave the Law Podcast, my podcast partner Adam Ouellette and I focus on how what we believe (whether we realize it or not) drives how we act, feel and view our reality as a practicing lawyer.

Beliefs can be positive and empowering, or negative and bring us down. It’s important to drill down, analyze and discern which beliefs influence us at which moments in our life, and in particular how we view our legal practice.

We shine light on our current beliefs around money and abundance (or lack thereof) and how these can stifle and limit our goals and dreams.

We dispel the myths that a lawyer’s asking for help is a sign of weakness, that “perfection” is to be aspired to at all costs and or that a lawyer’s ability to provide value beyond the legal professions is close to impossible.

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How he got his non-law dream job through a cold email

I spoke with a client last week who recently left the law. A former estate planning attorney who just recently transitioned to lead the direction and management of planned giving for a local university.

In his new role he helps provide the strategic direction and long & short range planning to support the development of major gifts and alumni relations related to cultivating and soliciting donors.

Sounds pretty cool, huh? 🙂

It’s close to his dream job. “Planned giving” is an area he identified early on in our process that was in alignment with his skills and strengths, his Unique Genius, and also something he cared a lot about.

He did explore and interview in a number of other areas. His Unique Genius seemed to align with Strategy jobs and Project Management jobs. He got interviews through his network at a Fortune 500 company and a small startup.

But he just didn’t see a fit with these paths.

A (sincere, authentic, aligned) cold email

So I asked him how, then, did he get an introduction to the university which ultimately just hired him.

I could feel him smile over the phone.

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Why being a lawyer just doesn’t feel right

My daughter is a big fan of the Peanuts cartoons. She shared one strip with me. She said that reading it made her think of the lawyers we help to leave the law.

Charlie Brown and his sister Sally are waiting at the school bus stop one morning, lunch bags in hand. Sally looks at the cars driving by and asks “Who are all those people driving by in those cars?”

Charlie Brown says “Those are people going to work.”

“Work?” Sally says

Charlie Brown explains “They used to wait for the school bus, like we’re doing … Now they have to go to work every day for the rest of their lives”

Sally says: “Good grief! Whose idea was that?”

Right, whose idea was that?

So many of us did what seems like everything “right” in your life. We did everything we were supposed to do.

We got the grades. We made (or tried very hard to make) our parents proud. We pursued safety and security and avoided the unknown and risk.

We applied to, got accepted by and graduated law school.

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Why you haven’t left the law yet

Deciding to actually leave the law can be a watershed moment in an unhappy attorney’s life. But it also is just the first step of many.

That’s what we touch on in Episode 9 & Episode 10 of our Love or Leave the Law Podcast.

My co-host and former attorney Adam Ouellette and I begin discussing the underlying fears that serve as the main obstacles to leaving the law for an alternative, non-law career:

– The Fear of the Unknown,

– The Fear of Risk

– The Fear of Failing

– The Fear of Social Dis-approval

– The Fear of Losing Our Identity as an Attorney

If you’re deciding whether to leave the law … take a baby step – listen to the podcast. It’s free. You can watch the video, listen to the audio, or read the transcripts.

Click on the player below. Hope you enjoy! More to come!

Want to talk about leaving the law? Schedule a free time to chat with me here.

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