I’m always on the lookout for stories from the Leave Law Behind community, of people first realizing they want to do something different to those people who take that first step and actually leave and do something else.
Here is the story of Carly Steinbaum, a former BigLaw attorney who left the law, took a break and now has started her own purpose filled company.
Here it is. I think you’ll find it insightful, actionable and inspirational. I did.
First of all, thank you, Casey for this opportunity to post, and thank you to all of you for reading this.
To begin, I was a lawyer for about seven years, first at Sidley Austin and then at a boutique litigation firm founded by Gibson Dunn & Crutcher attorneys. I now have my own company, De Novo, and we are building an app to allow professionals – beginning with lawyers – to swipe through job openings confidentially and chat with a third party recruiter on matched jobs, only if they want to – think Bumble for law jobs. (We’re launching our beta in the Fall,
Our job as attorneys often calls for us to be objective, detached and above-the-fray.
Law school taught us to be logical, commonsensical and compliant.
This emphasis on rationality helps us excel as attorneys.
But rationality can fail us when there is a disconnect between what we need to do as an attorney, and how we feel being an attorney.
When we don’t like being an attorney (and feel anxious, unhappy, disconnected or like a fraud), we can’t just dismiss these feelings.
Rather, we need to find a new way to get our arms around these feelings and understand how they can actually be the guidance we’ve always wanted to a more successful, aligned and happier life.
I shot this short 3:13 minute video below to help you begin to understand how listening to how you feel can be the first step to achieving the life you’ve always wanted to live.
If you’re serious about exploring how to leave the law, I’d suggest you act now on some easy-to-take babysteps we have here at Leave Law Behind:
First, consider the $1 trial for the Leave the Law membership program.
One of the main blockers we attorneys have in leaving the law is understanding exactly what we are good at, and how to “translate” these “transferrable” skills to a non-law, alternative job.
The thing is … you already know what you are good at.
I shot this short 2:55 minute video to remind you what these (fantastic, useful, in-demand, valuable) skills are.
On the fence, whether to leave the law, or stay practicing? See the replay from last Sunday’s webinar Love the Law … or Just Leave it – How to Get Off the Fence!. We’re taking the replay down this Friday, check it out now!
I can’t force you to change for the better. But if you are ready, I can help. Start here: http://leavelawbehind.com/leave-the-law-$1-trial.
(And if you’re interested in exploring this trial, I’d sign up now … I’m going to be closing it soon.)
Or sign up for a free 15 minute phone call with me to discuss whatever you’d like.
So happy to have seen everyone on Sunday’s webinar, Love the Law … or Just Leave it – How to Get Off the Fence!
We had a great session of training, tips and Q&A.
Luckily, we have a replay for those of you who couldn’t make the live event … and for those who did attend and want to review it one more time – Click here to check it out.
Please note, we’re taking this down at Friday August 4th at 6p Pacific time so if you’re interested in learning, I’d carve out some time this week.
We know you are on the fence
You’re procrastinating. You are hesitating to change your life for the better.
You may not be sure if you want to leave the law. And you’re also not sure what is the most satisfying way to continue to practice the law.
This training then is for you – here’s a sampling of the topics we covered in our talk:
- Why most lawyers don’t really like our profession and what you can do to reconnect with your love for the law.
We suffer from so much pain as unhappy attorneys.
We have so much fear that prevents us from leaving the law.
But there is hope. Lots of it.
I shot this short 2:45 minute video below to ask you one very important question.
I can’t force you to leave the law and be happy. But if you are ready, I can help. Start here: http://leavelawbehind.com/leave-the-law-$1-trial
The podcast episode with the leave the law expert Liz Brown is now at Love or Leave the Law.
A Harvard Law grad, former BigLaw partner, business law professor and author of the groundbreaking book, Life After Law: Finding Work You Love with the JD You Have, Liz is an expert on alternative career options for lawyers.
Want proven, actionable tips to leave the law? We discussed so much, we broke it out into two episodes. Start with Episode 18 and then listen more to Episode 19.
And if you’re serious (really, really serious) about leaving the law …
After you listen, buy Life After Law here. It’s a fantastic, well written, insightful resource that has been an inspiration to me.
Get free 15 minutes to take with me about whatever you want? Schedule a free time to chat with me here.
Ready to leave? Trial the Leave the Law Course for $1.
I was a Jewish kid who didn’t like blood.
That’s the best explanation I can give as to why I went to law school. I wasn’t going to medical school but it was expected I get a graduate degree. I just went to law school. I didn’t think too critically about it. I just went.
And I suffered for this lack of critical thought. While my high school teachers felt my speaking and writing skills could be of good use as a lawyer (“You like to talk, be an attorney”), I actually didn’t enjoy or excel at law school.
Except for one class: Second semester as a 3L, I AmJured my Negotiations and Settlement class. The irony … I’m about to graduate, I’ve struggled and struggled and can’t wait to get out of law school, and I finally am good at something.
But looking back, it now makes sense
The class was a small, about 20 students. It was taught by a practicing attorney from the San Francisco Morrison Foerster office. He was engaging, insightful and encouraging. We would break out into smaller groups that had to reach agreements based on real life case studies we could relate to and align with.
I was speaking recently with a reader who is interested in the Leave Law Behind coaching. She works in BigLaw. She makes a lot of money. Is respected by her friends and family.
But she is dying to get out.
She almost never sees her family. She almost never has a weekend without work. She almost never feels appreciation from her clients.
But a major obstacle in her way to leaving the law is the guilt she feels complaining about such a high paying job. She has all the creature comforts. On top of that, she was raised in a solidly middle class family where money was often a topic of mild anxiety and worry.
She asks, How can I complain about a job that makes me so much money? How can I stare my parents and family in the face and say I don’t like my job when I make so much money? How can I complain when I have a job that so many other people would die to have?
She says, I should realize I’m lucky to have this job. I should appreciate this job more so.
The comedian Emo Phillips once said: “I used to think that the brain was the most wonderful organ in my body. Then I realized who was telling me this.”
Our brain. Our beliefs. Our belief systems. How we are programmed.
This impacts how we feel, how we act, how we view the world, how we succeed, how we perceive happiness.
In the Love or Leave the Law Podcast, my podcast partner Adam Ouellette and I focus on how what we believe (whether we realize it or not) drives how we act, feel and view our reality as a practicing lawyer.
Beliefs can be positive and empowering, or negative and bring us down. It’s important to drill down, analyze and discern which beliefs influence us at which moments in our life, and in particular how we view our legal practice.
We shine light on our current beliefs around money and abundance (or lack thereof) and how these can stifle and limit our goals and dreams.
We dispel the myths that a lawyer’s asking for help is a sign of weakness, that “perfection” is to be aspired to at all costs and or that a lawyer’s ability to provide value beyond the legal professions is close to impossible.
I spoke with a client last week who recently left the law. A former estate planning attorney who just recently transitioned to lead the direction and management of planned giving for a local university.
In his new role he helps provide the strategic direction and long & short range planning to support the development of major gifts and alumni relations related to cultivating and soliciting donors.
Sounds pretty cool, huh? 🙂
It’s close to his dream job. “Planned giving” is an area he identified early on in our process that was in alignment with his skills and strengths, his Unique Genius, and also something he cared a lot about.
He did explore and interview in a number of other areas. His Unique Genius seemed to align with Strategy jobs and Project Management jobs. He got interviews through his network at a Fortune 500 company and a small startup.
But he just didn’t see a fit with these paths.
A (sincere, authentic, aligned) cold email
So I asked him how, then, did he get an introduction to the university which ultimately just hired him.
I could feel him smile over the phone.