Rejection is protection

When considering to leave law behind, we’re going to try a lot of new things.  Once we build up the courage, we’re going to try and set up informational meetings, we will interview for other, exciting job opportunities, we’ll potentially partner with other solos to create our own firm.  There are a lot of new things we will try.

And there is a lot of rejection we will face.  Some people won’t want us.  They won’t want to accept us into their club, they won’t want us to be their partners, they won’t want us to participate in the profits, they will turn down our book idea, they will not visit our new website, they won’t refer work to us, they won’t think our new consulting firm will add value.  They will reject us.

And it hurts.  It can be crushing.  And unfortunately, there is no way to avoid it.

But fortunately, there is no way to avoid it.  Rejection is an essential piece to our success.  It protects us from areas we shouldn’t pursue, reveals to us other paths, highlights what we could have done better to prepare and shows us what other opportunities are out there we may not have known about.

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Today is the tomorrow you feared yesterday

It’s Wednesday.  We’ve made it.  Remember that anxiety and nervousness we may have felt on Sunday evening about what we had to do, what we had to face, what we had to get through on Monday and Tuesday?  It’s Wednesday and we’re still around, so we must have done something right.  And likely what caused those big fears in our gut on Sunday (and Monday) turned out to not be that bad.  In fact the meeting or phone call or document or presentation or news we feared probably turned out okay (or even fairly well) or taught us something important or made us better or just wasn’t a big deal.

In order to leave law behind it’s very important to realize what strengths, skills and experiences we possess today.  Not what we had in the past (that we can learn from) or what we want in the future (that we can create).  We are often so concerned with what we have not accomplished so far or what we need to get done next, that we do not see that many of our previous wishes and goals have already been granted and achieved.

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