MLK

“The ultimate measure of a man or woman is not where he or she stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he or she stands at times of challenge and controversy.”

This is one of my favorite Martin Luther King, Jr. quotes.

It has inspired me to act to drive positive change, for myself and others in my life. It has taught me to embrace the unknown and the uncertain and the difficult as evidence of my growth and progress … rather than to be feared as insurmountable obstacles, barriers or inevitable failure.

Even if our individual goals seem much smaller than those of MLK’s, we can still drive insight from his wisdom.

While you, an unhappy attorney who wants to leave the law, might suffer from anxiety and depression and stress in your work, you actually exist and live and work in a certain level of comfort.

You know what to expect each day. You are making money. You are paying your bills. You have stature in your social circles. You are pleasing the people around you. Things are okay.

Things are not unknown or ambiguous or severely risky.

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Failure is now an option

As lawyers, we cannot fail.

Failing means we forget a precedent. We miss a court deadline. We negotiate poorly. We lose a case for a client.

And as a result, we fear being sued for malpractice. We fear losing a chance at partnership. We fear losing the client. We fear breaching our fiduciary duty.

We cannot fail. It’s part of our job description as attorneys, and it’s become part of our personal psyche.

Failure is now not only an option, it’s a pre-requisite

Fortunately, that is not the case when we leave the law.

We change this belief system. Failure is not looked at as a death sentence, it’s looked at as a learning experience. It’s considered a right of passage, a way to test and experiment, a way to get stronger.

I view failure as just another word for “babystep” to success.

For example, for one of my clients last year, we identified three main job areas that could have been a fit for his Unique Genius (his skills, strengths and enjoyments) and for us to explore.

But the Strategy Consulting lifestyle had too much travel.

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My promise to you this year

If you read Leave Law Behind, then you want to stop practicing law and land a new “non-law”, alternative job.

An alternative job that aligns with your skills and strengths, a job you enjoy and are confident at, a job in which you find meaning and purpose.

But if you haven’t left already, it’s because you’re afraid.

  • Afraid that you won’t be able to make enough money in a non-law, alternative job.
  • Afraid that you will ruin your long term career trajectory or cap your earning potential.
  • Afraid of the general unknown and uncertainty of leaving the law.
  • Afraid of disappointing or getting grief from your family and friends and work colleagues if you were to leave the law.
  • Afraid that you can’t do anything else but practice the law.

So my promise to you this year is I’m going to help you became less and less and less afraid about leaving the law.

And more and more and more confident about making this transition.

So these big overwhelming boogeyman fears shrink into de-mystified, overcome-able issues that no longer paralyze you to change your life for the better.

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The Three Main Fears That Keep You From Leaving The Practice Of Law

Originally published on December 15th, 2017 on Above the Law’s Career Center.

So many of us attorneys do not like the practice of law. You suffer under the anxiety and boredom and repetition and isolation and stress of being a lawyer.

But you still don’t leave the practice behind. You don’t make that career shift. You don’t change your life for the better.

It’s mainly because of the crippling fears that keeps you locked in a paralyzing figure 8 cycle of hating your current lawyer job, but not moving to something new because of your overwhelming fear of the unknown and erroneous belief that you cannot do anything else but be a lawyer.

You are afraid. So you wait. You procrastinate. You delay. Even though you cannot ignore the burning desire to leave the law and do something else.

I know that fear very well. It crippled me until I finally left the law behind in July 2004.

Below are the three main ways these fears manifest themselves, with some ideas on how to overcome them:

Fear #1 Fear of making less money and capping our lifetime earning potential

Most of your fear that keeps you from leaving the law revolve around money.

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The likely reason you haven’t left your law practice yet

There are thousands of people who subscribe to receive this weekly email.

Many of you are using the Leave Law Behind Coaching Program to empower yourself to overcome your fears of leaving your practice and to find that “non-law”, alternative job and change your life.

You seriously want to leave the law. You feel very out-of-sorts and not right as an attorney. You want to achieve a life of alignment and purpose and confidence and happiness.

Happiness is a result of the process

Those of you using the Program want, in large part, to be happy. And as we work together, you are beginning to realize what “happiness” really means, and that, as author Mark Manson (who I’m reading a lot of now) says, happiness is the process of becoming your ideal self.

But becoming who you really, really, really should be is not always seamless. It’s not always guaranteed. It’s not always perfect.

But it is meaningful. It is thoughtful. It is growth. It is development. It is sincere. It is authentic. It is strength. It is what you are here to do.

And this growth and satisfaction happens to you when you begin to have faith in yourself and take real substantial steps to leave the law,

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The first thing you will say to yourself once you leave the law

About twenty attorneys just like you showed up last night here in San Francisco for the first Leave Law Behind live event.

Munching on Mediterranean food and sipping wine in a historic subterranean theater, we had a two hour coaching program going through each step to leave the law.

And throughout it all, we faced, discussed, wrestled with and reduced the main thing blocking us from leaving the law behind: Our fears.

So many fears …

  • Fear of going to a “non-law” job we end up hating
  • Fear of entering a non-law industry we aren’t good at
  • Fear of making less money and capping our lifetime earning potential
  • Fear of disappointing our friends and family
  • Fear of taking a risk
  • And the big one … the fear of the unknown

Afraid of the unknown. Not being able to 100% fully control our fate.

We are afraid. So we wait. We procrastinate. We delay.

I know that fear very well. I resolutely determined that I wanted to leave the law in April of 2003.

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We all need to remember this as we leave our practice of law behind

This week’s video was inspired by an email I received from a new subscriber to Leave Law Behind.

She signed up for a free consult with me, and said how excited she was to have found our community.

She told me how she has been trying to change her life, and leave the law, but has had to do it all alone. She’s been unhappy, anxious, regretful, and confused … all by herself.

She didn’t know about all of us. Now she does.

I shot a short video to just let you know, and reiterate, that if you are feeling alone, please realize we are all in this together: http://leavelawbehind.com/what-we-need-to-remember.

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It’s not horrible

“Yeah, it’s okay, it’s not horrible, it’s alright, I mean . . . it’s cool.”

You may think of yourself as a great, fun, generous, exciting person.

You may consider your job as an attorney, however, to be just okay. And since you spend a good part of your life at your job, if your job is just okay, then it may be safe to say that a good part of your life is, likewise, just okay.

Imagine your eulogy: “He/She was such a great person. Miss him/her so much. His/her life? Well . . . it was . . . okay, yeah, not horrible. I’d give his/her life a 5.5 overall. Maybe a 6.

If you’re ready to make your life great, please explore the consulting I offer to help you land that non-law, alternative job.

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How to reclaim the control you think you have lost as a lawyer

I was answering a question on Quora yesterday and I saw a heartbreaking essay that an anonymous member wrote about how he or she hated being an attorney.

Beginning at 6.30a each day, the writer detailed minute by minute, hour by hour, the tasks he or she had to complete along with the anxiety, stress, boredom and sheer hopelessness he or she felt until collapsing into bed at 2am.

What struck me was how out of control this person felt.

The writer’s day was controlled by the client, the senior partner and deadline after deadline.

But there was one area I saw where he or she had an opportunity to reclaim a very important sense of control.

That’s what I talk about in today’s video (below):

Thanks

Casey

Click here to learn how to leave your law practice behind and get that first “non-law” job interview.

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Why trying to avoid making a mistake can be our biggest one

This week I want to focus on something that prevents so many of us from leaving the law … and that is the fear of making a mistake.

A mistake is traditionally defined as an action or judgment that is wrong or misguided.

We do or think of something, and if it isn’t successful, or not validated by others, or doesn’t make enough money, ugh, we made a mistake.

The fear of a mistake is what prevents us from taking any steps to leave the law and positively change our life.

It’s what causes the paralysis that makes us remain unhappy attorneys.

Warren Buffett’s mistakes

But Warren Buffett surfaces a different definition of mistake.

When asked “What is the biggest mistake you have made?” the greatest investor of all time said that some of his biggest mistakes were the times he decided to not act at all.

While sitting on the sidelines has its merits at times, my interpretation of his comments is these are the times his soul told him to make an investment or to reach out and connect with someone or to try something,

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