Today is Martin Luther King day. The quote of his that resonates with me the most is the ultimate measure of a person is not where he or she stand in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he or she stands at times of challenges and controversy.
This quote speaks to me not only at a high, macro level of trying to change the world, but also on the day-to-day, hour-by-hour, minute-by-minute level helping the LLB community.
This quote helped me when I was struggling to overcome the fears and blockers that reared their heads as I considered leaving my plum software licensing job.
This quote helped me as I tried to muster the motivation to understand what “alternative” jobs were out there, and how I could match my “transferrable” skills to them.
Intellectually you know that personal growth like leaving your law practice and finding an alternative career comes by embracing change and facing the unknown and going through the obstacle.
But emotionally, you’re still afraid and let this fear paralyze you and you end up doing nothing.
What is the ultimate measure of you?
Should we measure you by your choice to remain ostensibly comfortable in an attorney job that pays you a wage and keeps you ostensibly safe (but likely unhappy and anxious and unfulfilled)?
[CASEY’S NOTE: The following is a guest post by a Leave Law Behind reader, Kate Morthland (Linkedin Profile), full of detailed tips and guidance as to how she left the law for a career in Public Policy.]
I make most of my life decisions based on unrelenting intuition. If I have a “gut feeling” about a dog, I adopt said dog. If I “feel” like making a career change, I make it. If I make a terrifying realization in the middle of law school that I do not want to be a lawyer- I chart my own path.
Looking back, I couldn’t be happier that I utilized my skills I attained in law school for an alternative career as a policy analyst. I am living proof that “legal skills” are incredibly transferable. Ponder this– If you are an attorney standing in front of a courtroom, you have amazing public speaking skills. If you are a mediator, you have superb negotiation skills. The skills you learned in law school and practice daily are rare gems that can bolster your resume. The trick is messaging. We all know the law leaves little room for creativity,
A reader sent in this link of what I’m calling the “song of the year” for us unhappy attorneys considering leaving the law.
It’s from the show “Crazy Ex-Girlfriend”, which details the adventures of an anxiety and depression suffering real-estate lawyer who panics when her top New York City law firm offers her partnership and instead relocates to Southern California.
Click below to watch and listen.
If these lyrics resonated with you, and you want to leave the law, then talk to me to learn more about the Leave Law Behind Program. Schedule a free consult call with me directly and we can see if it’s a fit for you. Click here to sign up and schedule a time.
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You may suffer from “imposter syndrome” as an attorney, and feel like you do not know what you are doing day to day.
But there is a way to stop this. Here’s how …
Click here to schedule a strategic call with me, Casey Berman, founder of Leave Law Behind. I will get on the phone directly with you and give you that start you need to leave the law. I will take you through the steps you need to know right now to leave your legal practice. Wouldn’t it feel great to just align with the job, feel like you’re really doing something that you know how to do.
Casey Berman, founder of Leave Law Behind and I am as always happy to be with you in this short video.
I want to talk to you today about something that I know I experienced as an attorney and you probably have experienced or likely experiencing it and that is feeling like a fraud. Just feeling like a fraud as an attorney, just feeling like you don’t know what you’re doing which of course,
I am not sure how it got this way. Between you and me. It didn’t need to get to this point, and I want to correct it.
I’m an unhappy attorney who is trying to leave the law for a non law job. I am trying to change my life for the better. Please can you and I start over too?
I have to admit, I have always felt that you didn’t want to be with me. There was always just enough of you in my life … but you never seemed to like being with me. It was as if you were forced to be with me. You didn’t flow to me … you were dragged to me. I wondered why we never had that much fun together.
And you never seemed to want to stay long with me. You have been fleeting and unreliable. It always felt like you were in a hurry to leave me. And so I then worried if you would ever come back.
But now you are an immovable weight to me. Law school debt. Bills to pay. I don’t feel like you support me … rather you have me captured.
There is one very important tool that you currently have at your disposal to leave your legal practice.
It’s a simple tool. You have used it before. It makes the (seemingly) overwhelming takes like Leaving the Law doable.
But you are likely ignoring it. I shot the below video to tell you what this tool is, and how you can access and use it to your best advantage to leave the law.
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You can always access our free resources at www.leavelawbehind.com.
Now, after watching the video, do you still not believe that Babysteps will help you leave the law? Let me prove to you that you can do it.
If you’re ready to leave the law, schedule the best Babystep you can take right now, a Strategic Coaching Call with me, Casey Berman. Sign up here: https://leavelawbehind.com/strategic-coaching–consult/.
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For many years, I regretted attending law school – in the mid 90’s I went to University of California, Hastings College of the Law, and as a result, drove me to a career as an unfulfilled attorney, and caused me to miss out on applying for jobs at Yahoo, Google and other legendary Silicon Valley companies.
Thinking this way served as a channel for my frustration, but also always led me to being angry and disappointed.
So I changed my approach. In the below video, I wanted to share some real life tips I have used on how I shifted my mindset to appreciate my law school experience as a positive driver to help me build an alternative, “non-law” career.
I hope you enjoy.
If you haven’t done so already, if you want help or to learn more about how to shift your mindset, please enter your name and email on the box on this page or go to https://leavelawbehind.com to download our free e-book “Your Path Out” and a special free video mentoring series.
And if you’re ready to leave the law now, join us in the Leave Law Behind Career Coaching Program.
You’re exploring how to leave your legal practice and find an alternative career, but you are very likely hindered some blockers or obstacles or other issues.
Through all of the work we’ve done in helping people to leave the law, there are two main limiting beliefs likely getting in your way.
I shot the below short video to help you identify, unpack and overcome these two main beliefs that prevent unhappy attorneys like you from leaving the law and finding an alternative career.
I provide real life tips in this video to overcome these limiting beliefs, and discuss a real life story of how, even in the face of these fears, a Leave Law Behind Program member recently, successfully left the law.
The first belief that holds us back
Unhappy attorneys looking to leave the law often feel that there are not many non law, alternative jobs out there for attorneys. We lawyers looking to leave our law practice hold onto this belief that there is just a finite amount of alternative jobs and alternative careers out there for us.
The second belief that holds us back
There’s a second,
There are lawyers out there who really care about the work they do, who find satisfaction and fulfillment in being an attorney, who enjoy reading and soaking up the finer points of the profession, and who find meaning in representing their clients.
You are not that type of person.
You went to law school and became a lawyer for any or all of a host of reasons: Because you wanted a stable job or because of the allure of being an attorney or because you thought you wanted to change the world or because your parents wanted you to go to law school or because you felt growing up that you always wanted to be a lawyer.
And looking back, these reasons might not have been the most critically thought out.
Or they were reasons driven by other people in your life, not you.
Or they were reasons that now do not align with your priorities.
And because of this, being a lawyer has begun to shape up for you as simply a job where you trade time for money. It’s become a job where helping clients or companies or institutions make (or save or protect) their money feels more and more shallow and stressful,
And you adopted these beliefs from other people.
In other words, you think and act the way you do because someone told you to think and act that way.
You were a blank slate when you were born. We all were. And as you grew up, you took on beliefs from your parents and siblings and extended family and culture and city and country and friends and class.
You gained faith and confidence that certain things told to you were true.
Some of these beliefs may contribute to your greater good.
Some of these beliefs hold you back.
For us attorneys who want to leave the law, remember that the source of how you think and live your life came to you from others.
So when you feel right now that you cannot leave the law because you could never possibly make enough money in an “alternative” career to live on, that belief came from someone else.
When you feel right now that your skills allow you only to perform “lawyer” work, that idea came from someone else.
When you feel that stress and working hard and always having to be “on” in case a client needs you,