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For unhappy attorneys like yourself, leaving the practice of law begins at the end of your comfort zone.
You believe certain things. I do too. We all do.
These “belief systems” govern how we judge, think, and act in this world.
Some beliefs serve us well:
– “The world is abundant”
– “Everything will turn out all right”
– “Life is a game to be played, not a problem to be fixed” (and there are others).
Some beliefs do not serve us well:
– “I am not worthy and no one is going to hire me”
– “My worth as a human being is proportional to what I’ve achieved”
– “I need to be a workaholic to feel successful” (and there are others).
And when we talk specifically about leaving the law, and transitioning from our legal practice into an alternative,
It’s required to be a perfectionist as a lawyer … when writing a brief or meeting a client deadline or ensuring your client complies with a law or regulation.
You can’t make a mistake.
But needing to be perfect is exactly what you don’t want to be when looking to leave the legal profession. It will slow down your courage, motivation, and soul.
Case in point: The below email exchange with a fellow Leave Law Behind reader who was interested in learning more about the Leave Law Behind Coaching Program, but ultimately passed for the time being:
Thanks so much for reaching out. I’m still assessing and evaluating my situation and timing a bit, but didn’t want to leave you in limbo! I greatly appreciated talking to you and better understanding what you have to offer as I figure out my next steps.
And my response:
Sounds good, keep us posted how we can help.
And as far as “figuring out your next steps” … that can be a lot to ask,
Leave Law Behind is a blog and community to help unhappy and dissatisfied attorneys find ways to leave the law behind and create new career paths for themselves.
It’s an active community that comments on blog posts, emails me each week and interacts with each other.
It also contains a huge amount of self-admitted perfectionists, myself included.
You see, while it is rare, every so often I may make a mistake and include a typo in my writing.
No matter how many times I review and re-read my posts, sometimes there is a small grammatical error or some other type of inconsistency.
A few years ago, I saw a typo for the first time right after I hit “Send” on the email newsletter … and published it on Facebook … and tweeted it on Twitter. It was repeated as people forwarded the post along and retweeted. Some readers even emailed me directly to let me know it was there.
My mistake was out there and there was nothing I could do about it. I should have taken the time to re-read the post more carefully before sending and publishing.
While my parents wondered for years what this whole “Leave Law Behind” thing was, and really just wanted their nice son to have a respectable career as a lawyer, they now are big fans of what we are doing … my dad was even in attendance at the Live Event we held in San Francisco in December of 2017.
And he recently sent me an Albert Einstein saying to share with you all: “Stay away from negative people. They have a problem for every solution.”
It got me thinking about all of the people in your life that influence and impact you as you explore leaving the law.
Some of them are supportive and positive: They encourage you to change your life, they tell you it’s okay to want to be happy, they provide great feedback on your Unique Genius, they help you network and find job opportunities, and they are the first to toast you and your success in finding your dream career.
And then there are the negative people that Einstein warned us about. We can of course encounter negative people in all aspects of our life,
I am a big fan of the J.R.R. Tolkien books.
I just re-read the classic “The Hobbit”, and it inspired me to shoot a short video about what the hero of the story, Bilbo Baggins, did time and time again … and how what he did is something we all need to do as we leave the law. Watch the video here. I hope you enjoy it.
Are you ready to leave the law? Are you really serious that now is the time for you to explore your dream career?
If so, you have found your tribe.
At Leave Law Behind, we have developed the proven process to find your dream career. Click here to find out how it can work for you.
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I recently emailed with a fellow member of the Leave Law Behind Online Coaching Program who is at the exciting stage of identifying and then interviewing for careers out of the law.
She’s building momentum – some of these job descriptions are shaping up to be a fit with her Unique Genius … with her skills and strengths.
But as we reviewed many of these specific jobs, her fears and self-sabotage of the actual change required to leave the legal profession would still arise.
This manifested specifically through her saying “I don’t …“, as in:
- “I don’t think I want to do [“NON-LAW” JOB X] ”, or
- “I don’t know much about [THIS ASPECT OF “NON-LAW” JOB X], so I guess I won’t pursue it” … and on and on.
Fear of change
Saying “I don’t” is a manifestation of our fear of change. It’s a way we think we protect ourselves from the unknown … but we are really just sabotaging our growth and development.
So she and I worked together on some new ways to re-phrase … or reposition … or rethink …
As I mentioned earlier in the week, I recently broke my foot.
Being injured caused me to do something that I’m very bad at … but is key to succeeding at leaving the legal profession behind.
That’s what today’s video is all about.
To your success,
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I broke my foot recently. Freak jogging accident. On crutches for four weeks, and then a walking boot for another four. But no surgery needed, and I’m healing well.
And while I can see my injured foot each time I look down, my recuperation has made me think of other injuries we suffer from, but cannot see that easily … many of which firmly get in the way of our path to leaving the law.
There’s a big revelation in the short video I shot this week, and it’s one that you absolutely need to consider and face as you explore leaving the law.
To your success,
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[Quick note: Our Leave Law Behind Free Consult calls will be ending on July 15th. After that date, we will need to charge for our time. Sorry about that, but the demand on our time requires this. If you’re serious about leaving the law, sign up now for a Free Consult with me.]
Yesterday I saw a recorded talk from the businessman, speaker and author Simon T. Bailey.
He said that by the time a child is 17 years of age, he or she is likely to have heard the word “no” over 150,000 times.
And he or she is likely to have heard the word “yes” only 5,000 times.
We grow up hearing the word “no” 30 times more than we do the word “yes”.
30 times more.
He pointed out that the result of hearing all of these “no’s” creates a neurological pathways in the brain that shut us down from attempting what we are being told is forbidden.
The more you hear what you can’t do, what you can’t become, what you shouldn’t do, the more you don’t ever consider doing it.
I love hearing stories from the Leave Law Behind community, of unhappy attorneys first realizing they want to do something different to those amongst us who take that first step and actually leave and do something else.
Here is the story of Christina Arenas, a Leave Law Behind community member just like you, who recently took the courageous step to leave her full time attorney job and pursue her dream as an e-commerce entrepreneur.
Her online store Duchess of Dupont curates an eclectic mix of lingerie, swim, and leisure wear. And she’s providing discounts for LLB readers! – email Christina directly at firstname.lastname@example.org.
In the below post, Christina takes us through her journey of leaving the law, how she identified her entrepreneurial vision, how she managed her finances to make this shift, and the 3 main lessons of becoming your own boss that she wants to share with you.
I think you’ll find her experience and bravery in facing the unknown and following her dream insightful, actionable and inspirational. I surely did.
Take it away Christina …