Why you hate being an attorney? I shot the below video to answer this burning and sensitive question you may be struggling with.
You likely have tried to answer. But I have a feeling there is a core, fundamental reason you have not yet uncovered. That’s what I reveal to you in the below video.
Click below to watch the video, or scroll down further to read the transcript.
And if you’re interested in seeing if leaving the law is for you, click here to take our free quiz. It’s easy and fun to take, and you’ll find out how far along you are in your journey towards leaving the law. And once you know your results, I’ll then follow up with some ways to translate that into smart, strategic action. Click here to take the quiz.
The Real Reason Why You Hate Being An Attorney
Okay maybe “hate the law” is a little strong for you. Maybe you’re just bored being an attorney. Or maybe you’ve had a good run as an attorney and you’re ready now for your second act. Or maybe you do hate the law.
I was certain I was about to fall to my death.
Let me back up.
There is a new indoor rock climbing wall at the Glen Park Rec Center here in San Francisco. You know, the 30 to 40 foot gymnasium walls strewn with multi-colored, bolted-in climbable cracks, rocks and arches for safety harnessed climbers to ascend to the top and live out their bouldering dreams.
On a recent rainy day, I went there with my wife and children. I put on my helmet, strapped on my climbing harness, attached my carabiner to the rope, looked up at these multi-colored rocks lining the climbing route and yelled “On beley!” to the attendant to get started.
And even though this was my first time ever rock climbing, I expected to climb straight up all the routes and impress myself, my family and other onlookers watching below.
I mean, how hard can this rock climbing thing be? I’m in pretty good shape. It’s like going up a ladder, right?!
(You can see where this story is headed.)
Well, I was in for a hard truth. Rock climbing isn’t that easy.
I’m a big fan of Jen Sincero’s “You Are a Badass” series of books.
In her book around Money, she has a chapter called “Align With Your Truest You.” What jumped out at me was her insight that:
“So often we discredit the things that come naturally because we’ve bought into the idea that success needs to be difficult, or that if something comes easily to us, it must come easily to everyone, and therefore isn’t worth pursuing in any serious sort of way.”
Permission to believe in yourself.
As you frame out your Unique Genius (Module 4 of the Leave Law Behind Career Coaching Program) and really begin taking those steps to align what you do well with alternative jobs out there, please keep this insight from Jen in mind. I feel this is what we’ve seen surface in the recent Unique Genius Spotlight Live Trainings.
You are detailing (or soon will detail) your skills and strengths. You are bucketing them. You’ve got (or are getting to) an idea of what types of jobs might be a fit for you. Sure, you have more research to do and more jobs to find and more informational interviews to go on.
Today is Martin Luther King day. The quote of his that resonates with me the most is the ultimate measure of a person is not where he or she stand in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he or she stands at times of challenges and controversy.
This quote speaks to me not only at a high, macro level of trying to change the world, but also on the day-to-day, hour-by-hour, minute-by-minute level helping the LLB community.
This quote helped me when I was struggling to overcome the fears and blockers that reared their heads as I considered leaving my plum software licensing job.
This quote helped me as I tried to muster the motivation to understand what “alternative” jobs were out there, and how I could match my “transferrable” skills to them.
Intellectually you know that personal growth like leaving your law practice and finding an alternative career comes by embracing change and facing the unknown and going through the obstacle.
But emotionally, you’re still afraid and let this fear paralyze you and you end up doing nothing.
What is the ultimate measure of you?
Should we measure you by your choice to remain ostensibly comfortable in an attorney job that pays you a wage and keeps you ostensibly safe (but likely unhappy and anxious and unfulfilled)?
A reader sent in this link of what I’m calling the “song of the year” for us unhappy attorneys considering leaving the law.
It’s from the show “Crazy Ex-Girlfriend”, which details the adventures of an anxiety and depression suffering real-estate lawyer who panics when her top New York City law firm offers her partnership and instead relocates to Southern California.
Click below to watch and listen.
If these lyrics resonated with you, and you want to leave the law, then talk to me to learn more about the Leave Law Behind Program. Schedule a free consult call with me directly and we can see if it’s a fit for you. Click here to sign up and schedule a time.
You may suffer from “imposter syndrome” as an attorney, and feel like you do not know what you are doing day to day.
But there is a way to stop this. Here’s how …
Click here to schedule a strategic call with me, Casey Berman, founder of Leave Law Behind. I will get on the phone directly with you and give you that start you need to leave the law. I will take you through the steps you need to know right now to leave your legal practice. Wouldn’t it feel great to just align with the job, feel like you’re really doing something that you know how to do.
Casey Berman, founder of Leave Law Behind and I am as always happy to be with you in this short video.
I want to talk to you today about something that I know I experienced as an attorney and you probably have experienced or likely experiencing it and that is feeling like a fraud. Just feeling like a fraud as an attorney, just feeling like you don’t know what you’re doing which of course,
You’re exploring how to leave your legal practice and find an alternative career, but you are very likely hindered some blockers or obstacles or other issues.
Through all of the work we’ve done in helping people to leave the law, there are two main limiting beliefs likely getting in your way.
I shot the below short video to help you identify, unpack and overcome these two main beliefs that prevent unhappy attorneys like you from leaving the law and finding an alternative career.
I provide real life tips in this video to overcome these limiting beliefs, and discuss a real life story of how, even in the face of these fears, a Leave Law Behind Program member recently, successfully left the law.
The first belief that holds us back
Unhappy attorneys looking to leave the law often feel that there are not many non law, alternative jobs out there for attorneys. We lawyers looking to leave our law practice hold onto this belief that there is just a finite amount of alternative jobs and alternative careers out there for us.
The second belief that holds us back
There’s a second,
There are lawyers out there who really care about the work they do, who find satisfaction and fulfillment in being an attorney, who enjoy reading and soaking up the finer points of the profession, and who find meaning in representing their clients.
You are not that type of person.
You went to law school and became a lawyer for any or all of a host of reasons: Because you wanted a stable job or because of the allure of being an attorney or because you thought you wanted to change the world or because your parents wanted you to go to law school or because you felt growing up that you always wanted to be a lawyer.
And looking back, these reasons might not have been the most critically thought out.
Or they were reasons driven by other people in your life, not you.
Or they were reasons that now do not align with your priorities.
And because of this, being a lawyer has begun to shape up for you as simply a job where you trade time for money. It’s become a job where helping clients or companies or institutions make (or save or protect) their money feels more and more shallow and stressful,
It’s required to be a perfectionist as a lawyer … when writing a brief or meeting a client deadline or ensuring your client complies with a law or regulation.
You can’t make a mistake.
But needing to be perfect is exactly what you don’t want to be when looking to leave the legal profession. It will slow down your courage, motivation, and soul.
Case in point: The below email exchange with a fellow Leave Law Behind reader who was interested in learning more about the Leave Law Behind Coaching Program, but ultimately passed for the time being:
Thanks so much for reaching out. I’m still assessing and evaluating my situation and timing a bit, but didn’t want to leave you in limbo! I greatly appreciated talking to you and better understanding what you have to offer as I figure out my next steps.
And my response:
Sounds good, keep us posted how we can help.
And as far as “figuring out your next steps” … that can be a lot to ask,
I am a big fan of the J.R.R. Tolkien books.
I just re-read the classic “The Hobbit”, and it inspired me to shoot a short video about what the hero of the story, Bilbo Baggins, did time and time again … and how what he did is something we all need to do as we leave the law. Watch the video here. I hope you enjoy it.
Are you ready to leave the law? Are you really serious that now is the time for you to explore your dream career?
If so, you have found your tribe.
At Leave Law Behind, we have developed the proven process to find your dream career. Click here to find out how it can work for you.