Why you may need some new friends

 July 19, 2013

By  Casey Berman

Unfortunately, leaving the law starts out as a very lonely endeavor. It can be difficult to find others who have done it successfully to serve as role models or sounding boards. It is extremely hard to map out a structure and set of steps to follow successfully. It is not easy to forecast and prepare yourself financially for the potential unknowns.

And your current network of attorney friends, co-workers, colleagues and family will likely be of little or no help. Many attorneys are surrounded by other attorneys. We don’t often plan it this way, but the people we gravitate to, the people we mingle with, the people we (of course) work with and the people we just find in our network are often predominantly attorneys.

And while these people may be fantastic and close to you and care about you deeply, when you want to leave the law, this huge, solid, connected, professional, intelligent, dynamic network is often of little use, because this network of mainly attorneys may not be able to understand or connect to or relate to or open up about why you would want to leave this reality that they have built for themselves.

Some may love the practice of law, and just can’t comprehend why you would want to leave it. Many others may feel as dissatisfied as you do, and feel as beat down as you do, and yearn for change as much as you do … but they won’t have the courage or wherewithal or energy to take that first step and explore. They may have their identity so tied to law, or feel they are too old and set in their ways to change, or feel their monthly expenses are too great for them to branch out, or they wonder what their colleagues and peers would say if they were to leave. And if they find out you do have this courage and wherewithal and energy, they may get mad. Or jealous. Or slowly fill with bad energy.

Whatever the case may be, they will not be of much help to you.

And we all need help. Lots of it. On a consistent basis. From like-minded, giving, confident, courageous people.

So as you explore leaving law behind, and begin to open up to some of those around you, remember not to be dissuaded by the first reactions you receive from others. They may not provide you with the best advice or support or guidance. And that’s okay, as it’s their problem, not yours.

Ready to take BACK Control of Your Life?

Are you feeling stuck in your legal career, dreaming of a way out? At Leave Law Behind, we specialize in helping lawyers like you find fulfilling nonlaw careers that reignite your passion and restore balance to your life.
If you've practiced law for seven or more years and are considering a change, we invite you to watch our short welcome video below. Then, schedule a free call with us to see if you're the perfect fit for our transformative coaching program. Your future begins here.

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked

  1. Another very good entry.

    Very savvy, too, about family. Chances are that your parents, when you are a young lawyer,are proud of you achieving to them something that is a big deal, not realizing that getting a law degree isn’t that hard, and finding work is. And later, if you are married and employed, your spouse will have next to no sympathy, and a lot of fear, about you leaving an employment that seems stable. They’ll tend to write any expressions of doubt about your career off as mere grousing.

    1. It’s very true. The ones that love us and are around us the most can often not be the people who are best qualified to help us understand our Unique Genius (our skills and strengths) and help us align these skills with a job, that we can love, excel at and feel confident doing.

{"email":"Email address invalid","url":"Website address invalid","required":"Required field missing"}